Thanks fellas for the replies. It sounds like all of us are on the same page. I showed my wife the thread so she could see where I was coming from as a father and husband. She did have a correction, it wasn't a phone, it was an IPOD (doesn't change things too much, but just wanted to make sure I had the facts correct since I threw it out there). I believe my wife gained some insight to where I was coming from and has an understanding of why I thought it was such a big deal.
Here's how this issue was resolved (the thread was intended to show my wife that I wasn't off base with my thoughts and I sure appreciate your responses as they validated my opinion and actions): After talking to both my wife and daughter about the situation, the game was ended and it hasn't occured anymore. I kindly explained that "yes, I may be being too protective in their eyes, however that's what daddy's do". My wife knows the man and his wife and finds him to be a respectable man. I trust her judgement in men (myself excluded
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), however, as expressed here, I do not want any opportunities for improper actions to take place, period. In turn, my daughter will not be playing games with adults on the IPOD, Phone, Computer, etc unless they have been properly vetted by both my wife and myself. I will try to get to know the gent a little better if the opportunity arises, as our kids are friends and I need to gain confidence in who my kid is hanging out with. My daughter is extremely bright and is an "old soul", so I am fortunate in that sense. Furthermore, we have a good line of communication thus far in our relationship.
Yeah I know a 12 year old having a phone seems a little crazy but I'm cool with it. I like her having a phone when she is staying at sleepovers, camps, sports, etc. It doesnt have internet, but I did add texting, so that she can communicate discretly with her mother and I if needed. Also, I do have the passwords to her phone and IPOD and I do occassionally look at her messages, etc with her. It hasn't been an issue thus far and I don't think it will be in the future.
Thanks again for expressing your thoughts, which I was able to show my wife as means of validating that us dads ain't crazy, we are just protective of those we love.
Now I am off to the G220 Mens conference and hopefully will run into some of yall over there. Take care and once again, thanks for taking the time to weigh in on this thread.
Scoop